Ways to Improve Married life
Marriage skills are needed to build a healthy marriage include understanding of the soulmate concept, keys to having a successful marriage, making decisions together, dealing with conflict, and marriage myths and expectations.
when one spouse deals with conflict constructively, by calmly discussing the situation, listening to their partner's point of view, or trying hard to find out what their partner is feeling, for example-and the other spouse withdraws."
Not facing head on and dealing with conflict in the marriage is like sealing the fate of what should be a lifelong commitment. We don't think when we marry that we will be called on to step outside our level of comfort and engage in conflict BUT no marriage is conflict free and no marriage survives conflict avoidance.
Marital problems don't always lead to divorce. At times they may cause you to feel like you want to run screaming toward the courthouse but, that doesn't have to be the situation. I know you've heard this before but, I'm going to say it again anyway…marriage is work, a lot of work. The stress and strain of every day life can distract us at times and cause us to lose focus on the work that needs to be done in the marriage. That same stress can invade a marriage, exacerbate, and magnify any marital problems and issues in the marriage.Your commitment to the marriage and your spouse determines how much you are willing to put up with and how hard you are willing to work on the marriage.
Compromise is a necessary part of any successful, enduring marriage. For two people to work together as a team, each member must give and take once in a while. But many of us have no idea how to compromise. You're probably used to make decisions that satisfy you and you alone. Once you commit to marriage, you must consider the needs, wants, and happiness of your husband or wife. That means being willing to compromise.
5 Relationship Rights!
1. You deserve someone who can offer you a shoulder to cry on, emotional support is by far one of the most important things to look for in a partner.
2. You deserve to be treated with respect, which means living a life free of putdowns, physical threats or emotional and physical abuse.
3. You deserve the right to say how you feel. People take things differently, and if some one has done something to hurt your feelings, they you need to take responsibility of letting them know, but do it in a calm and non threatening or blaming way.
4. You deserve a partner that offers support and trust, and encourages you to follow your dreams and inspirations, without putting you down or becoming jealous.
5. You deserve to keep certain things to yourself, for example diaries, emails, or your own cell phone activity. If you are cheating then that is another story, but if you are faithful you don't deserve to have anyone invade your privacy.
Here is a step-by-step guide to the art of compromise: